The wisdom of anger

The wisdom of anger

⁠You’re allowed to be angry.⁠
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This has been a theme coming up the past week… with various people, places and things. If I’m coming across it, perhaps you are too…⁠
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When we get angry, we’re often told to “get over it.”⁠
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We think: We want to be good people, and good people means we’re not angry. ⁠
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That’s not true.⁠
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Whatever “it” is, if you’re angry about it, there’s a message for you.⁠
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We can ignore it all we want, try to move on without hearing the anger, but if anger keeps sneaking up on you, there’s something that wants to be heard, and it’ll keep coming until you hear it.⁠
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Beneath the anger, is usually unrecognized pain, hurt, or grief. Or it’s telling us about a boundary that needs to be set. There may be a message of empowerment that wants to be received by you.⁠ Or something you want deeply that we aren’t allowing.
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Throw out what you think you “should” do, about being a good person.⁠
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Our anger, if properly heard and directed, is an innate wisdom, that transcends the protocols of “good person” and “bad person.”⁠
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Stop, and talk to your anger. Ask it what it wants to say. Ask it what it needs, for you to be whole.⁠
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And then, give it time to heal.
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For more on this topic, check out this article about empowering yourself with anger, “How to be really angry and still be a good person” – written in my column for Jumble & Flow.⁠

In gratitude, Bonnie
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2021-08-04T21:49:24+00:00Tags: , , , |

Don’t forget your own desires

Don’t forget your own desires

In important relationships, we are often wondering: What does the other person want? 

We ask this because we don’t want to rock the boat. We don’t want to overstep for them to reject us or see us in a negative light. 

When making decisions, we want to know what the other person wants, ignoring our own wants and desires.

Oftentimes, we’re not thinking about this consciously. It’s just something we do.

Women have this tendency, but I’d say anyone with a nurturing side does. We lean into our natural nurturing skills, a good skill set to have. We take it and use it to the point where, that is all we do. All we do is nurture others.

If you are this natural born nurturer, I feel for you. 

Remember that nurturing others is only one of the things that you want for your life. You are more than your ability to nurture. 

Remember that sacrifice is not nurturing. Society has somehow convinced us that sacrifice for someone we love is the ultimate showcase of love. It is not.

When we tire of sacrificing, we beat ourselves up. We accuse ourselves of being not a good friend, parent, child, sibling. 

We get so accustomed to sacrificing that we forget what it’s like to explore our own desires.

We forget that our own desires exist. Then, one day we wake up and realize – I have no idea what I want.

Give yourself permission to explore your own desires.

Start simple.

What do I want for breakfast today, truly? 

Break yourself out of your own routine and see that today, you may have a new desire that  wants to be heard. Perhaps you have a desire that was different from yesterday’s. 

Ask yourself, “What do *I* want?”

In gratitude, Bonnie
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2020-09-08T18:47:59+00:00Tags: , , |

Dialogue with your heart

Dialogue with your heart

In quarantine, we may be feeling very lonely. Many of us, when we feel lonely, we may call up a friend and see if they want to grab a coffee. Or, we may even go to a cafe on our own just to be around people, to feel like we’re not so alone in the world.⁠

Without the option of doing these things, it’s easy to feel lonely. And you may feel trapped in your loneliness. If this is you, I feel for you. ⁠

I truly believe one of the gifts of the current times is for us to connect with our heart. Your heart wants to talk to you. It wants you to know your own true desires. It wants you to stop asking others to distract you or give you advice, when what it comes down to is what you really want in your heart.⁠⁠

Most questions we ask others, are things we should be asking ourselves.⁠⁠

For many, this new way of being is very uncomfortable. We often ask others for their opinion because we want permission from others, to tell us it’s okay to feel how we feel. When the permission we should be gaining is our own.⁠⁠

When you dialogue with your heart, you are not only hearing what it has to say, but you are making a commitment to yourself to be one with your true desires. It is a way of talking to God / The Universe / Your Higher Self. If you are uncomfortable with the concept of talking to God / The Universe / Your Higher Self, try this instead. ⁠⁠

Talk to your heart. Pray to your heart. Socialize with your heart.⁠

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In gratitude, Bonnie
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2020-08-28T03:35:03+00:00Tags: , |

Let yourself cry

Let yourself cry

Are you feeling sorrow? ⁠

Are you feeling helpless? ⁠

Are you feeling guilty?⁠

In these troubled times, many of our 4th and 5th chakras are feeling like there is a huge frog in there. Our 4th heart chakras are breaking, and at the same time feeling guilty and helpless. ⁠⁠

On the otherhand, our 5th communication chakras are unsure what to say. There is something in there that wants to be said, but should we say it? What if I say the wrong thing? ⁠

Perhaps you feel like crying.⁠

Then, cry. Let the emotion out. Don’t question why you are crying. Just cry.⁠

The energy around us is thick with emotion. It permeates us and we don’t understand it. ⁠

We don’t need to have a reason to cry. The emotions want out. ⁠

After your cry, you may want to get yourself an ice-cream. Or a cookie. ??⁠⁠

Give yourself permission to have a good cry sesh.⁠

Sending love and light.⁠

In gratitude, Bonnie 

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2020-08-28T03:37:33+00:00Tags: , , , |
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