The wisdom of anger

⁠You’re allowed to be angry.⁠

This has been a theme coming up the past week… with various people, places and things. If I’m coming across it, perhaps you are too…⁠

When we get angry, we’re often told to “get over it.”⁠

We think: We want to be good people, and good people means we’re not angry. ⁠

That’s not true.⁠

Whatever “it” is, if you’re angry about it, there’s a message for you.⁠

We can ignore it all we want, try to move on without hearing the anger, but if anger keeps sneaking up on you, there’s something that wants to be heard, and it’ll keep coming until you hear it.⁠

Beneath the anger, is usually unrecognized pain, hurt, or grief. Or it’s telling us about a boundary that needs to be set. There may be a message of empowerment that wants to be received by you.⁠ Or something you want deeply that we aren’t allowing.

Throw out what you think you “should” do, about being a good person.⁠

Our anger, if properly heard and directed, is an innate wisdom, that transcends the protocols of “good person” and “bad person.”⁠

Stop, and talk to your anger. Ask it what it wants to say. Ask it what it needs, for you to be whole.⁠

And then, give it time to heal.

For more on this topic, check out this article about empowering yourself with anger, “How to be really angry and still be a good person” – written in my column for Jumble & Flow.⁠

In gratitude, Bonnie
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