⁠The other person was still an asshole.⁠

⁠The other person was still manipulative.⁠⁠

The other person was still a jerk.⁠⁠

The other person was still violent.⁠

⁠But we create the story that this was done to us, and we have no power.⁠

THAT’s the story. THAT was the belief. When we were, or are, going through it.⁠

At any point, we can / could make the choice to leave. To put a stop to it. To say no. To set boundaries.⁠

But as the adage goes… it takes two to make a relationship.⁠

What happened with YOU, in that relationship?⁠

Could it be, that you wanted someone else to love you, so much so, that you ignored your own power? ⁠

That’s the part we own. ⁠

The times when we didn’t act. ⁠

⁠Who we were in the relationship. ⁠

How we reacted in response.⁠

The times we ignored the love that we have for ourselves, for the sake of wanting and grasping for… that feeling of being loved and cared for by another.⁠⁠

Even though they go to extremes to show you otherwise as well.⁠

Instead of self-love, we embodied self-hatred. We put ourselves through misery.⁠

When we own what we didn’t do, we free ourselves.

Love yourself, ya’ll

In gratitude, Bonnie
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