Why Giving Yourself Permission is Important
The second we were born, we are told what we should and should not do.
As we go on in life, we create a catalog of these shoulds and should nots.
These beliefs create a system of values, ethics, moral codes that we live by. Some of them are helpful to us, but some of them hinder us.
Values like: We must go to school. Study hard. Go to University. Get a job. Get married. Get a family. Stay stable. Keep everything happy. Don’t rock the boat.
Some of these values have helped us at points in our life. But they also create a lack of permission for us to stray outside the norms of what we’ve been taught.
We put a lot of pressure on ourselves to stay on this path that we’ve been given, even when we feel unhappy, depressed, anxious. We may look successful from the outside, but we are discontent on the inside.
Permission is Freedom
All of this programming builds within us a lack of permission to explore outside the bounds of what has been given to us as “right” and “wrong.”
When we don’t give ourselves the freedom to explore, we hold it in our body and our energy field. There is this curiosity… a need… a desire… But we suppress it, disallowing it. Not letting ourselves “go there”.
When each desire comes, and we suppress it some more, it’s like a jar of strings, rubberbands and trinkets. We toss whatever comes in the jar without looking at it. After a while all of this is jumbled together into a mess, and we don’t know what is in there anymore.
Meanwhile, this jar becomes heavier and heavier. And the weight becomes more and more apparent.
When we give ourselves permission, we release the energy holding it in place. This allowance frees us from the limitation we have put on ourselves. Even if the limitation was initially given to us from others, we can choose whether we want to keep the limitation in place. We have the power to decide.
Permission is a Doorway.
When we allow ourselves to do something, it is a doorway that we cross. What once was shut, is now open. From there, there are many different directions to go in.
You may even decide, whatever it was you thought you wanted or needed is no longer relevant. Or, you may see how much you wanted it and go after it.
This is how lack of permission can keep us stuck in our lives. We feel stuck when we don’t give ourselves permission for something.
This can be so many things.
It can be permission to feel.
Permission to desire.
Permission to be imperfect.
Permission to let go of control.
Permission to break the rules.
When we give ourselves the permission, new possibilities open.
They can be new ideas, thoughts, perspectives and actions.
It all starts with Permission.
Now that you have a better understanding of Permission, you may have more to say to the Permission Wishing Well.